How a Bach Flower remedy can restore your self-esteem.
Confidence is an emotion that we all need, we need confidence to enable us to work, get a job, approach, and talk to other people, go out of the door, socialise with people, find our hobbies, move home. It carries us forward in life and facilitates our ability to succeed in life.
How does low self-esteem affect us?
The problem arises in life when confidence is lacking and when it disappears. Confidence is something that we are born with, but life events cause our confidence to disappear and gradually dissipate. This erosion of confidence can start as a child, when a child is not supported, their achievements are not noted and supported and enhanced.
When they achieve in anything, do a beautiful painting, or play nicely, anything that is lovely and approving we need to tell them how amazing it is and how wonderful they are.
When they go to school this is where bullying can arise, it is a horrible scenario and something that for me seems totally unnecessary, but bullying can be the biggest cause of loss of confidence.
The confidence is eroded, children are discouraged from being nice, from being clever and it is utterly dreadful that this should happen.
How it happens
Just imagine the situation where you take a test and the test is returned and you have done well, you have 20 questions answered 18 of them correctly – just awesome. However, you have 2 wrong, and the focus is on the 2 that you have got wrong and not on the 18 you have got right!! There should be a cheer for the 18 you got right and how amazing that is and not focus on the wrong answers.
I often wonder if when I was at school exam papers had been marked with red ticks and green crosses. The wrong answers were always highlighted as being the ones we needed to concentrate on.
Sadly, though this can then happen in later life in the workplace as well. Chronic bullying can also then result in PTSD – I have a client now who is working through treatment to help with recovery from chronic bullying in the workplace.
What does the Larch Remedy do for us?
The Bach Flower remedies to help with lack of confidence is Larch, sadly those who are feeling unconfident often give up because they are convinced they will fail before they have even started.
They suffer feelings of inferiority; they feel themselves not good enough.
The Larch remedy can slowly allow these beautiful souls to reach their full potential and recover their self-esteem.
Ultimately, they will not think about the failure they will simply move forward with what they would like to do. They will look as to how they can do what they want to do and how they can achieve.
Larch allows them to take the initiative, to take chances and they will turn all the “cant’s” into “cans”. It is a remedy to allow you freedom to do whatever you wish, knowing you can succeed.
If I can help you find your confidence again regardless of age then please let’s try. www.remediesbyros.com
