Managing your young people through exam stress

Although the pandemic was 5 years ago it has created a huge number of problems for many people but not least for the youngsters who are currently about to sit their major exams, be there ‘O’ levels or A levels.  Either way these young people have had a particularly raw deal. The youngsters taking O levels this year were the group of students who never said goodbye to their peers when they moved from Junior to Senior school!

Sadly we have very short memories of the chaos that was created and the effect it has had on a generation of students – maybe we need to think more about it.

My story in education

As the daughter of 2 teachers one of whom taught at senior level I am only too aware how difficult this time can be, and as the mother of a young lady who always strived to achieve but to do so had to work exceedingly hard – this time of year is tough.

A client experience

I wanted to talk you through a testimonial and story of a client I had last year, she was desperate and so was her daughter, although the daughter didn’t say so in her own words until it was almost too late.

Back in early 2021 I had a call from a mum who was worried about her 16-year-old daughter – she had struggled through the first lockdown and the beginning of the pandemic and home schooling, but mum had done her best.

The results – one for daughter and one for Mum

After long discussions we put together a selection of remedies for both.  We looked at the fear remedies for both, we looked the remedy Agrimony for the daughter to help her to open up and find it easier to talk to Mum, we also discussed Clematis for clarity and focus, attention to detail – so important when revising.  We looked at Oak – the remedy to allow both Mum and daughter to rest when they were so tired.  This first blend was brilliant for the daughter.  https://remediesbyros.com/oak-the-remedy-to-give-you-strength/

Mum had her own blend, and this also contained Red Chestnut for her fear and over concern for her daughter.  Sometimes when we are over concerned for our children, we do not give them time to breath and show themselves, we need to allow them space to develop and Red Chestnut is brilliant for this.  https://remediesbyros.com/over-concern-for-others-how-can-we-help/

The thoughts behind the pupil

For the daughter it was mastering her fear of failure and how this could affect her future and that by not getting the results she needed her whole life would be shattered.  When however, we talked it through step by step she was able to appreciate that if she did the best she could where she was at that time it would gradually fall into place.

It was a time to reduce the blind panic and encourage a method of slowly looking at each piece of revision as a single job and working through it gradually.  When we looked at remedies to encourage a level of confidence and ability – Larch – and also to help her patience – Impatiens,  we were able to create a more peaceful environment for her to study in.  Her mind was more logical, and she realised that the only thing she needed to do was her best!

The end results

The remedies allowed both parties in these sessions to really understand their minds and also to be able to improve their relationships, the assessments, as they were then, successful and whilst it wasn’t straight A’s all the way there was a huge amount of happiness, relief and fun had by both Mum and daughter.  We had straight A’s for fun and love and a much better relationship for both.

In Mum’s own words “I have found a beautiful understanding with my daughter and also with myself – thanks to the remedies”

Summary

I can blend a unique selection of remedies to suit your personal needs and also to suit the needs of your children.  Your children can talk to me on their own or with you – we can work via zoom or phone its entirely up to you.  I will work with whatever you are happy with.

This is key – we are not all Einstein – in fact if we were life would be very tedious, but if you are able to go into an exam knowing you have done your best then you can do no more.  Don’t look at others and don’t listen to others – concentrate and focus on yourself and realise that it is only about you and your life.