How can you help your child feel better about school?
The new term is 3 weeks away but your child/children will I am sure be having thoughts about the return to school, Here are some thoughts and practical tips and also some advice re Bach Flower Remedies that could help the little people in your life feel better about the start of the new school year.
The first week of a new term can be daunting for – some maybe starting school for the first time while others are going into to big exams either GCSE’s or A levels. Either way there are opportunities for anxiety to arrive.
Their emotions will also affect everyone in the house so its good to see if we can settle them soon
What is the atmosphere in your house now? Are they nervous, excited, reluctant?
I suspect that there may be a fear involved, amongst all the emotions, and it is those I want to talk to you about this week. Within the Bach Flower Remedies there are two types of fears that are particularly of interest with this topic – Fear of the known and fear of the unknown – in the Bach flower world Mimulus and Aspen respectively.
How can we help the children naturally without remedies
Before we look at the remedies lets think about other things we can do to help them:-
- Talk to you child, ask them to try and express how they are feeling – this sounds obvious but invariably it is the last thing that we do, we need to sit quietly with them – no phones around and when they are on their own and able to quietly talk.
- Maybe ask them to write their thoughts down to stop them from going round in their head
- Maybe find some ways to create relaxation for them, to get them away from the anxiety they are feeling, explain that all children will be having these thoughts.
- Explain the positives of school, maybe find someone they can buddy up with to go to school with, also explain the positives of your school life but equally if you didn’t have a good experience explain that too – it will help them to see that you have got through it as well and you have survived.
- It is crucial to keep lines of communication open at all times, we need to help our young people overcome their struggles and not leave them to fumble around in the dark. They need our support.
How Bach Flower Remedies could help
The remedies that could help are discussed below, I would also recommend some Rescue Remedy pastilles for the first few days.
Aspen
The remedy for the fear of the unknown – when we are talking about children, you will be looking to help a sensitive child wanting to feel brave. They are afraid of a monster in the cupboard or the crocodile under the bed.
They will often ask for bedroom door to be left open overnight and a light to be left on. They may have fears of unknown origins. Certainly, if they are suffering from night terrors as tiny children then Aspen is the remedy to calm them down and to help the terrors of the night disappear. It will lead to them feeling more confident.
Aspen is very much a remedy to calm the fear that they cannot describe, the odd feeling in their tummies, the feeling of dread when they are unable to put a name to it – just a general unease or anxiety.
The Huge benefits of taking Aspen
It is here that Aspen comes into its own – it calms it pacifies it will create a feeling of empathy inside – it will steady the nerves. It will help to create a sense of fearlessness; apprehension is replaced by a desire to learn and for adventure
Mimulus and Aspen together
Where there is a known reason for fear and in the case, we are discussing i the start of school for the tiny ones or in some instances the return to school life after a long some holiday.
Let’s start with the tiny one heading for their first day at school – a huge step for all concerned and something thing to think about quite seriously – some children will be more than ready – others not so especially if they have not been to nursery possibly because of Covid or other family reasons then school life will come as a bit of a shock to them. We would apply both remedies Aspen and Mimulus for these little ones, wherever we can name the fear this is where this beautiful remedy comes into its own. At this time your child will not know what is going to happen but it is linked to the known fear of going to school – so the elements of known and unknown are there.
Mimulus
For the children who are reluctantly returning they too could have their own inner fears, maybe there has been some bullying, or maybe they are just shy and timid and just very sensitive – this remedy will help to bring them out of their shell and allow them to bloom as bright as the beautiful yellow Mimulus flower.
Mimulus can be shown to be needed in everyone right from the tiny baby to adulthood. You may also recognise Mimulus type people as being shy, and of delicate build, showing a sign of fragility. There can also be a tendency to blush, or stammer or suddenly giggle nervously.
You may notice some of these traits yourself – if this is the case, I would suggest that the Mimulus remedy could be of great use to you.
There are also those who are good at disguising their sensitive nature and appear strong and extroverted, it is only when looking more closely that you will see the sensitivity in their eyes and discover that they would rather not have much to do with the world.
The fears, of course, that Mimulus can help with are far reaching, fears of dentist, fling, public speaking, driving, and of course, we can then look at the phobias that also count with the fears of the known. If you allow yourself to be consumed by your fear it sadly will take a huge toll on your life.
The huge benefits of Mimulus
By taking Mimulus you will find the anxiety and concerns and fears will ease and you will be able to reveal your true self. You will possibly be able to deal with the fear more easily and manage it in a more realistic manner. This will lead to the endless opportunities opening up for you.
If you are prescribed Mimulus by a practitioner for one specific fear – I would suggest that after a successful completion of the course and experiencing the feeling that your original fear has gone – you will certainly fear more courageous about a lot of other things in your life as well.
How can I help my child
If having read this you feel that your child could benefit from some help it would be amazing to have a conversation.
